People say that parenting is the toughest job in the world. It will require you 24/7 of your time with no day-offs or half days. As parents, our dream is to see our children grow happy and successful. We only want what's best for them and what is worthy for them. But our children's future depend on them and on how we raise them. Their success doesn't lay in our hands. It's their responsibility and their choice. We only serve as their guidance and support.
Raising a child is a hard task but a challenging one. There are so many things to consider and many things that need to be done. One of the biggest challenges of being a parent is managing a difficult or defiant behavior on the children's part. It is important for us to raise a responsible kid. A kid with good manners and right conducts.
Some of us have difficulty in dealing with a child's behaviour. Many parents are hitting or spanking their children in order to discipline them, but what they don't know is that hitting a child won't do them good. This will cause rebellion and the child will think that hitting is permissible in any relationships. You must show your children love, tenderness, gentleness, patience and respect. Because how you treat your children is how they will treat themselves and others.
When a child starts to misbehave, a parent needs to be more patient and more observant. There must be something wrong or something bad happened to your child that caused them to misbehave. Talk to your child. Take the time to listen earnestly to everything that your child wants to say, no matter how small or how big it is. Encourage him to ask questions and express his feelings and his thoughts. If you don't listen to the little things when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff as they grow. Because for them, all of it has always been a big stuff.
Ignoring your child whenever they make a mistake and giving rewards for them to do good are just a short -time way of fixing your child's behavior. The effects are just for a short period of time. Eventually, they will still misbehave. Look for any other ways on how to deal with their misbehavior.
Arguments always happen inside our home. We often have misunderstandings with our children. Don't argue with them. When you argue with your child, you are giving him power. Power to talk back to you and making you the wrong side. Instead, you must focus on making the behavior powerless, and then give him consequences so that you can hold him accountable.
Children are great imitators. They love to imitate or copy the things or the person that they are seeing. So give them something great to imitate. Children usually close their ears to advice, but they open their eyes to examples. Parents are the ultimate role models for children. Every word, movement and action can affect them. Other person or any outside force influence them less than the parents.
Parenting is not about controlling a child's behavior. It is about teaching children to control their own behavior.
Spend twice as much time with your child if you want him to turn out well. Teach them, nurture them. Because every home is a university and the parents are the teachers.
